Category: Emotional & Brain Health

Marriage Improvement, from Mediocre to Delightful

The basics of marriage improvement

Consider the fact that you could have an absolutely delightful marriage. So, it’s sort of silly to settle for a mediocre one. All it takes is changing some mindsets and studying the greatest marriage manual of all time. So, let’s begin to study the basics of marriage improvement.

Sit down and decide that you are going to figure out how to improve your marriage. Keep in mind that you may have to change some of your mindsets.

The greatest marriage manual is the Holy Bible. In Matthew 22:39 Jesus commanded us to love your neighbour as yourself. Your closest neighbour is your spouse. So, be as kind and unselfish to your spouse as you would be to yourself. Matthew 5:16 says Let your light shine before men so that they may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven. So, you want your marriage to be so delightful that your neighbours will think, “I want what they have.”

Ephesians 4:26 says Do not let the sun go down on your anger. Work out your differences before you go to sleep.

Reading the Bible out loud together daily can help you discover those verses that will help send your marriage to a new level.

High stress & serious health issues

Dr. Caroline Leaf says, “Thoughts do cause illness … . They have the power to make us sick.” Read that web page. If you are causing your spouse stress, you could be making them very sick.

The most important concept I took away from my university Industrial Relations course was as follows. Negative emotions can reduce a person’s ability to think logically. So, not only can high stress product health problems. High stress can reduce your ability to do your job well and make money.

Consideration & respect

marriage improvementIf you paraphrase 1 Peter 3:7, it says Husbands, treat your wives with consideration & respect so that your prayers will not go unanswered. Change a mindset. You and your spouse should both agree to try to treat each other with consideration and respect at all times. Then the quality of your marriage can shoot through the roof.

Learn your spouse’s love languages. It will help you to treat them with consideration & respect.

Money

Money issues is one of the big three problem areas that destroy marriages. (The other two are communication & sex.) If money is a problem, decide that you are going to just figure out how to solve the problem. Be realistic. If self employed, it may be unrealistic for you or your spouse to earn more. In that case, you have to figure out how to spend less.

Some cities have free credit counselling services. Search online for: [your city] credit counselling services. You may find a website such as this one belonging to the Credit Counselling Society.

They will give you very valuable little tricks for removing the stress from your money management issues. That will include a suggestion that you make a spreadsheet of your monthly budget. After one month, you may be shocked at how much you are spending on some of those categories such as eating out.

Your spreadsheet will have two sections. The top one will have one line for each expense. The bottom line will subtract your total expenses from your total income to give you closing cash.

The second section of your spreadsheet will have a number of categories. These are the categories that may have more that one entry per month. The running total of each category will be automatically added to the top section.

At the end of each of the first few months sit down and calmly discuss how the expenses can be reduced. Be open to changing your mindsets. Changing your mindsets can be a first step towards marriage improvement.

Summing up

In this blog post we have discussed a few marriage improvement issues that can change your marriage from mediocre to delightful. Remember these points:

  • Be open to changing some mindsets.
  • Read the Bible together.
  • Decide that you are going to figure out how to improve your marriage.
  • Wherever possible, remove the stress from your marriage.
  • Always treat each other with consideration & respect.
  • Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.
  • Calmly discuss your differences as soon as reasonable.
  • Make a monthly spreadsheet of your income & expenses.
  • Stress can cause health problems and reduce your ability to earn money.


 

 

 

Trading Floors & Establishing a Heavenly Kingdom on Earth

What are the trading floors?

trading floorsThis blog post is a summary of the book, The Trading Floors of Heaven.

There are two trading floors. One is of God and the other is of satan. They are both in the realm of the spirit.

Satan’s trading floor is designed to build satan’s kingdom on earth. God’s trading floor is designed to make a person’s life more abundant.

A trading floor is a place in the spirit realm where people give some something and get something in return. It may be positive or negative.

For instance, when someone sins, they are trading on satan’s trading floor. They are getting temporary pleasure. In return, a potential blessing was withheld. That would help build satan’s kingdom. Sounds like a foolish trade to me.

When someone is truly worshiping, they are giving a blessing to God. In exchange, they receive God’s blessing. They have just traded on God’s trading floor.

How do we trade with satan?

The first trade recorded in the Bible was when satan convinced Eve to eat the fruit in exchange for having the ability to know good & evil. Adam & Eve traded their dominion over the earth for their supposed ability to be like God. Their sin gave satan legal right to have dominion over the earth.

Every time you sin, you are trading with satan’s kingdom. You lose blessings and opportunities that would have been available to you.

So, satan’s trading floor takes life away from you and God’s trading floor releases life to you.

Trading floors & 2 kingdoms

After Adam & Eve sinned, satan’s kingdom was established. So, Earth now had two kingdoms — Kingdom of God & kingdom of satan.

When Jesus came to earth, he traded his divinity for an earthly body. I.e., he entered God’s trading floor. Later he traded his life for the blessed life that mankind can live in the Kingdom of God.

We now have an opportunity to trade on God’s trading floor & get back what satan got from us in his trading floor.

Intentional & unintentional trades

Whether intentional or unintentional, a trade will have the same consequences. Even a trade your ancestors made can affect you negatively because the results of the trade can be in your DNA.

Secular scientists know about the effects of experiences creating changes in a person’s DNA.

Scientists in Emory University gave mice a mild shock. At the same time they smelled a particular fragrance. Consequently, they developed a fear of that fragrance.

Then the researchers milked the sperm & sent it across campus. There female mice that had never been around the males were impregnated  with the sperm.

Their offspring & grandchildren were all afraid of the same fragrance.

Read more about this experiment in a National Geographic article.

Blood covenants of your ancestors

Let us suppose that your ancestors from 20 generations killed their firstborn in a ritual to their gods. Perhaps they did it in exchange for victory in a war.

In the realm of spirit, this would have been a legal agreement.

If you are a firstborn child, you could be experiencing consequences of the ritual from 20 generations ago. Perhaps all sorts of things in your life are going wrong in a way that seems unreasonable. The devil may be laying claim to your life because of that legal trade so many  centuries ago.

Gambling

When someone is gambling, they are trading their money for the chance to make good money from the god of chance. God should be our provider. When we gamble, we trade this hope in God for hope in a demon.

This hope in a demon can pass on to future generations. A gambler’s great-grandchildren can end up hoping for financial blessings from sources that have nothing to do with God’s blessing.

Reversing trades with the god of chance

To reverse the effects of the trades, start by repenting. Below is a sample prayer.

Father, I repent on behalf of anyone in my bloodline who traded with the god of chance. I repent for agreeing to such a trade. I call this trade sin. We sinned against you God. 

Lord, have mercy on us. Forgive us for having faith in another god and not in you. We repent and walk away from this way of unbelief. We give back anything we have that we have received from the god of chance including his false hope. We trust & believe You will provide for our needs according to Your riches in Glory.

After you have completed your repentance, you can go into the Courts of Heaven and request a decree such as the one below.

Father, I step into the Courts of Heaven. I request that You issue a decree that you annul any contract that exists between the god of chance and me & my bloodline. Father, I ask that you remove any counterfeit hope that is anchored in my heart and soul. I do not want to be tethered to any god but You. I reject any false hope, wish or chance. I say today that my trust is in my Lord Jesus Christ and no one else.  

In addition to this prayer, you might want to lay claim to anything you believe was stolen from you by the god of chance.

 

Buy The Trading Floors of Heaven book online.

Watch The Trading Floors of Heaven YouTube video below.

Homosexual Became Straight After a Music Concert

From sexual trauma to homosexual 

homosexualAt the age of 5 Dennis Jernigan had a sexual trauma. This affected him so that he eventually became a practicing homosexual. He did not like being that way.

Then, as a young man he was at music concert. He experienced God’s love in a powerful way. The homosexuality was reversed.

He is now married with nine children.

His television interview is archived online.

 

Listen to Dennis Jernigan’s television interview with Sid Roth from his It’s Supernatural television show.

Emotional Trauma Healed with Joan Hunter

emotional traumaWhen Joan Hunter prays for people, psychological and emotional trauma are reversed. This in turn can reverse diseases and other infirmities.

Joan Hunter prayed for a man who had been crippled from birth.

The man got out of the wheelchair and began running around the church.

Memories of emotional trauma

She prays for people who have had emotional trauma. The memories produced by the trauma are erased.

These memories can produce anger, stress, worry, bitterness and depression. These in turn can produce disease.

In one case Joan Hunter prayed for someone who was released from the effects of so much trauma that she INSTANTLY went from size 18 to size 14. Within the next week she went down to size 12.

 

Watch the It’s Supernatural TV interview between Joan Hunter & Sid Roth.

 

Listen to five radio interviews with Joan Hunter.

 

Bipolar Reversal After a Supernatural Prayer

Bipolar medication for 20 years

bipolar reversalAt age 12 a doctor diagnosed John Waller as a manic depressive (today called “bipolar”). He was on medication for 20 years. Then he had a bipolar reversal.

At age 23 he got married and presented his wife with a very difficult life. She had to go out to work while he babysat (and did an abysmal job of it.)

Bipolar reversal

After two people came over and ministered to him, his depression was reversed. Now he travels around helping people to get free from their problems.

One of the big keys is in Proverbs 18:21 — Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Learn about John Waller’s bipolar reversal. See and hear the interview with John Waller.

Watch the television interview between John Waller & Sid Roth.

 

People Who Cannot Control Themselves

Some people just cannot control their behaviour. Perhaps they are addicted to gambling, drugs, alcohol or any of a number of different behaviors. 75 – 85% of prisoners who are let out on parole will reoffend. They often simply cannot control themselves.

Before the late Dr. Paul Hegstrom was healed, he used to beat his wife. He hated himself for doing that. He kept promising himself that he would never do it again. He even spent $30,000 on psychologists fees. But, he could not control himself.

After much study he finally found out how to “rewire” his brain. The process took three years. He no longer has any trouble with wife beating.

He and his former wife got remarried. After 23 years in the new marriage, there had never been a single case of domestic violence.

Among other things, Dr. Hegstrom worked with parolees. He worked with several groups of ex-cons in the state of Georgia. Instead of 75 – 85% of them reoffending, 2 – 6% of them reoffended.

He worked with over 500 parolees in the state of Texas. After five years into the project, NONE of them had reoffended.

Why People Cannot Control Themselves 

Paul had been sexually abused at age eight. That had been a big part of the problem.

Some types of childhood traumas cause the body’s adrenalin-producing system to be on high alert. As a result, three different chemicals (dopamine, seratonin and norepinephrine) cannot be produced in sufficient quantities at the onset of puberty. The extra adrenalin prevents that from happening. Consequently, the brain does not fully develop and, in Paul’s case, part of him remained like a nine-year-old boy.

The five types of childhood traumas that can cause the adrenalin-producing system to stay on high alert are:

  • Rejection in the original family,
  • Incest,
  • Molestation
  • Emotional abuse and
  • Physical abuse.

Watch the television interview between Dr. Paul Hegstrom and Sid Roth.

Related pages

 

Childhood trauma & reversing its effects

Domestic violence

Altering human brain cells

Emotional abuse

Dr. Hegstrom’s life skills project

Childhood Trauma and Reversing Its Effects

Rewiring the Brain

This article is about rewiring the brain to reverse damage caused by childhood trauma.

The image above is a picture of axons moving their positions in the brain. A major university did brain scans on some of Dr. Hegstrom’s clients.

Among them were violent criminals who had served their time in prison. After 26 weeks within Dr. Hegstrom’s program, their brains look much different. After a year on the program, the brain shows more rewiring than at 26 weeks.

Usually 75 – 85% of parolees can be expected to commit crimes again and return to prison.

They said that of all of the people they had ordered to take the course in the past five years, none had returned to prison.

Their brains had been rewired.

Scars remain after forgiveness

A teacher in Newfoundland was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform.

She had the children take out a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry.

Now, even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it.

That is what happens when a child bullies another child. They may say they’re sorry, but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.

Arrested brain development

Bullying and other forms of trauma can arrest a child’s development. The trauma can cause the adrenalin-dispensing system to be in a constant state of alert waiting for fight or flight.

When the child reaches puberty, the excess adrenalin prevents three chemicals (dopamine, seratonin and norepinephrine) to be produced in sufficient quantities. These three chemical are necessary for normal development in the brain. As a result, part of a person’s personality can remain like that of a prepubescent child.

The five types of prepubescent traumas that can put the adrenalin-producing system to stay on high alert are:

  • Rejection in the original family,
  • Incest,
  • Molestation
  • Emotional abuse and
  • Physical abuse.

The late Dr. Paul Hegstrom was an expert in the field of prepubescent trauma. He said that it can lead to serious problems such as

♦  ADD,
♦  ADHD,
♦  Disrespect for authority figures,
♦  Domestic violence,
♦  Anger management issues,
♦  Inability to love,
♦  Inability to parent properly and
♦  Inability to resolve conflict.

The main reason Dr. Hegstrom is an expert in the area of prepubescent trauma is because he was violently raped at the age of eight. For much of his earlier adult life he was an emotional mess. He eventually started a research project trying to find out how to make himself into a decent person. He found out how to “rewire his brain”.

 

Watch the television interview between Dr. Paul Hegstrom and Sid Roth.

Related pages

People who cannot control themselves

Domestic violence

Altering human brain cells

Emotional abuse

Dr. Hegstrom’s life skills project

Bible Verses, Saying My Favourite 31 Daily

Recitation of Bible verses part of my daily devotions

Part of my private devotions every day includes reciting the 31 Bible verses you see below. By saying them every day for years, I have come to believe them fully.

They are part of my thinking processes as my day goes by. The result is that every day I am full of love, joy, peace and faith.

See our mnemonic device page about tricks on how to memorize Bible verses.

Mediate on the Word of the Lord day and night so that you will be careful to do what is written. Then you will be prosperous and successful.    Joshua 1:8 (Paraphrased)

Do not be afraid. The battle is not yours, but God’s.    II Chronicles 20:15b

 

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.    Psalms 37:4

 

I have hidden Your Word in my heart so that I might not sin against You.    Psalms 119:11

 

Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.    Proverbs 3:5,6

Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength. They will rise with wings as eagles, they will run and not be weary, they will walk and not faint.    Isaiah 40:31

You will seek the Lord and find Him when you seek Him with all of your heart.    Jeremiah 29:13

 

Bring your whole tithe to the storehouse. Test me in this and see if I won’t open up the floodgates of heaven with so much blessing that you cannot contain it.    Malachi 3:10

Man does not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.    Matthew 4:4

 

 

Let your light shine before men so that they may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven.    Matthew 5:16

Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.    Matthew 6:33

Not everyone who says, “Lord, Lord”, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven.    Matthew 7:21

If anyone hears the message of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one will come and snatch away what was sown in his heart.    Matthew 13:19a

Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation. Those who believe and are baptised will be saved. Those who do not believe will be condemned.    Mark 16:15,16

The Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.    Luke 19:10

 

To all who received Him, to all who believed in His name, He gave the right to be called the children of God.    John 1:12

Unless a man is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of heaven.    John 3:3

 

BibleFor God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son so that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting life.    John 3:16

I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.    John 14:6

 

If you love Me, you will do what I command.    John 14:15

 

Salvation is found in no one else [but Jesus Christ]. There is no other name under heaven by which you must be saved.    Acts 4:12

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.    Romans 3:23

 

The wages of sin is death. But the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Romans 6:23

 

If you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.    Romans 10:9

The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.       Galatians 5:22

We are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works that God prepared in advance for us to do.    Ephesians 2:10

Our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers…and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.    Ephesians 6:12

He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.    Philippians 1:6

The Lord rewards those who diligently seek Him.    Hebrews 11:6b

 

Draw near to the Lord and He will draw near to you.    James 4:8

 

If you confess your sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.    I John 1:9

Here I am, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone years My voice and invites Me in, I will come in and sup with him and he with Me.    Revelations 3:20

More Spiritual Food

The verses below are not part of my daily devotions. But, I use them often and they have really changed my life.

Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.    Philippians 4:8

All things work together for good, for those who love God, for those who are called according to His purpose.    Romans 8:28

Husbands, treat your wives with courtesy and respect so that your prayers will not go unanswered.    1 Peter 3:7

Lastly, this is what keeps our marriage super strong: Bible reading. My wife and I read four pages of the Old Testament and  a chapter from the New Testament out loud almost every day. Then we pray out loud together.

Related page

Read this web page of a lady’s 50 favourite Bible verses.

Life Skills Project by Dr. Paul Hegstrom

Dr. Paul Hegstrom is the founder of Life Skills International. His program helps people who are having trouble with

♦ Anger
♦ Emotional Abuse
♦ Love and Family Bonding
♦ Managing Stress
♦ Developing Trust
♦ Mother/Son Relationship
♦ Respecting Self and Others
♦ Domestic Violence
♦ Communications
♦ Awareness and Processing of Feelings
♦ Learning to Forgive
♦ Accepting Responsibility
♦ Building Lasting Relationships
♦ Parenting Skills
♦ Father/Daughter Relationship

Integrity Life Skills offers a weekly program for twenty-six weeks to men and women in a group atmosphere. In the case where an individual or couple needs assistance before a class is available, we will refer them to the The Stepping Stones Clinic in Aurora, Colorado. This clinic involves five days of intense one-on-one work with therapist, Dr. Debra Bussey.

Dr. Hegstrom went through a great deal of stress developing this program. Because of a huge childhood trauma, he was an emotional child in an adult’s body.

He could not control himself. He beat his wife many times. After each time he hated himself for doing it. He promised that he would stop. Sometimes an hour later he would end up being mean to his wife again.

After facing 15 – 22 years in prison for attempted murder of his wife, he decided that he would have to make a radical change.

After 16 years of domestic violence, Paul Hegstrom and his wife got a divorce. Then, as Dr. Hegstrom learned what he had been doing and why, he “rewired his brain”. The process took three years.

He and his former wife got remarried. After 23 years in the new marriage, there has never been a single case of domestic violence.

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Outside of his home, people really liked Paul. That was because he was such a nice guy. But, inside his home he was abusive to his wife in every way including physically and emotionally.

He hated himself for that. He thought he was dirty and damaged. He kept saying that he would change. But, his behavior had control over him.

brainHe eventually started a research project trying to find out how to make himself into a decent person. He found out how to “rewire his brain”.

Paul had been sexually abused at age eight. That had been a big part of the problem.

Some types of prepubescent traumas cause the body’s adrenalin producing system to be on high alert.

He found out that there are three chemicals (dopamine, seratonin and norepinephrine) that could not be produced in sufficient quantities at the onset of puberty. The extra adrenalin prevented that from happening. As a result, part of him remained like a nine-year-old boy.

(The five types of prepubescent traumas that can put the adrenalin-producing system to stay on high alert are:

  • ♦ Rejection in the original family,
  • ♦ Incest,
  • ♦ Molestation
  • ♦ Emotional abuse and
  • ♦ Physical abuse.)

Related pages

People who cannot control themselves

Childhood trauma & reversing its effects

Domestic violence

Altering human brain cells

Emotional abuse