Domestic Violence

Rewiring his brain

After 16 years of domestic violence, Paul Hegstrom and his wife got a divorce. Then, as Dr. Hegstrom learned what he had been doing and why, he “rewired his brain”. The process took three years.

He and his former wife got remarried. After 23 years in the new marriage, there has never been a single case of domestic violence.

Outside of his home, people really liked Paul. That was because he was such a nice guy. But, inside his home he was abusive to his wife in every way including physically and emotionally.

He hated himself for that. He thought he was dirty and damaged. He kept saying that he would change. But, his behaviour had control over him.



He eventually started a research project trying to find out how to make himself into a decent person. He found out how to “rewire his brain”.

The cause of his behaviour

Paul had been raped by a man at age eight. That had been a big part of the problem.

Some types of prepubescent traumas cause the body’s adrenalin producing system to be on high alert.

He found out that there are three chemicals (dopamine, seratonin and norepinephrine) that could not be produced in sufficient quantities at the onset of puberty. The extra adrenalin prevented that from happening. As a result, part of him remained like a nine-year-old boy.

(By the way, the five types of prepubescent traumas that can put the adrenalin-producing system to stay on high alert are:

  • ♦ Rejection in the original family,
  • ♦ Incest,
  • ♦ Molestation
  • ♦ Emotional abuse and
  • ♦ Physical abuse.)


Books and DVDs by Dr. Hegstrom 

Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain: Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past 

Despair. Emotional isolation. Self-loathing. Immaturity. Abusive actions.

These are just some of the damaging fragments that remain embedded within our personalities, behaviors, and souls when we are broken as children. The memory of the past may seem distant and clouded, but within its scars deep wounds remain that continue to inflict pain upon our adult lives — and often end up spilling into the lives of others.

Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain, Paul Hegstrom shows us the scars from his broken childhood and shares practical and proven methods for facing and dealing with the pain of the past. By using scientific research, psychological studies, and biblical principles — especially those found in the Jewish model of raising children — he points us to the place of healing where we are finally free to pursue authentic relationships and build healthy emotional intimacy with others.This updated version of Broken Children, Grown-Up Painis an excellent resource for pastors, teachers, counselors, psychologists, parents, or anyone wounded by an abusive past.

Related pages

People who cannot control themselves

Childhood trauma & reversing its effects

Altering human brain cells

Emotional abuse

Dr. Hegstrom’s life skills project

Altering Human Brain Cells

The diagram to the right illustrates four parts of the brain cells (neurons) — the dendrites, the cell body or soma, the axons and the synapses. Neurons have specialized projections called dendrites and axons.

♦ Dendrites bring information to the neurons.
♦ Axons take information away from the cell body.
♦ Information from one neuron flows to another neuron across a synapse. The synapse contains a small gap separating neurons. For communication between neurons to occur, an electrical impulse must travel down an axon to the synaptic terminal.

The Science of Thought 

This website discusses two scientists who have each spent decades studying human thought and how brain cells and a person’s thought life can be changed without drugs.

Dr. Paul Hegstrom 

Dr. Paul Hegstrom’s research involves arrested childhood developmental disorder. Because of various types of childhood traumas, a person can be a child in an adult’s body. The symptoms can be a number of different types of abusive behavior including criminal violence.

Electron microscope studies have shown axons actually having grown after twenty-six weeks in Dr. Hegstrom’s Life Skills program.

Dr. Caroline Leaf 

Up to 95% of physical health issues are a direct result of your thought life. Dr. Caroline Leaf explains how to get rid of toxic thoughts. She explains how we can rewire our brains.

Below is a YouTube video in which Sid Roth interviews Dr. Caroline Leaf.


Related pages

People who cannot control themselves

Childhood trauma & reversing its effects

Domestic violence

Emotional abuse

Dr. Hegstrom’s life skills project